These “kink-shaming is the same as homophobia” kinksters view their own kinks as sexual perversions—something they engage in that turns them on because it’s taboo, because it triggers other emotional responses along with arousal (i know because I’m kinky too). This is the same way they view queer people. They think being gay, bi, etc. is a sexual perversion. That we’re queer because it’s taboo because it’s risky. They view it as another fetish, and try to relate to us in that way. Like, “look I’m a pervert, just like you.” And that shit is so homophobic and damaging, because it plays into the whole “slippery slope” rhetoric and the old-school queerness as perversion tropes. Please keep your comparisons to yourself. My normal, adult same-sex relationships are not the same as you wanting to fuck some cartoon ponies.